How to support someone going through a divorce

When a person goes through a divorce, it may be hard for their friends to know how to support them. There are so many different things shifting all at once, it is hard to know where to start. I usually suggest things like offering childcare, running errands, making meals, all of which make a difference to a new single parent. 

A new client of mine shared some great ideas. A friend of hers came to clean out her husband’s closet so that she would not have to live with his things. She also bought her a new shower curtain and towels so that her bathroom could feel fresh and new. These ideas felt creative and loving to me. My client felt deeply supported by these actions. 

The most important part is listening - being able to be there while the person shares worries, fears and hopes for their new life. And then letting them know that you know the other side will be better, because it usually will. 

What have you done for others as they went through a divorce? More importantly, what did you want when you went through yours?